Honoring Your Worth: Am I Thriving or Just Surviving?

This week, I’ve had countless conversations with nurse leaders questioning whether they should stay in their roles.

For many, stepping into a nurse leadership role wasn’t just about ambition—it was about making a difference. But to be honest, sometimes it was simply because no one else was willing to step up.

These leadership roles come with 24/7 accountability, constant problem-solving, and a level of emotional investment that can feel overwhelming. Yet, nurse leaders keep showing up, fueled by an incredible sense of purpose and passion.  That passion is different for everyone, but for leaders it is usually about their staff. . .it’s about mentorship, showing up and advocating.

I want to tell you you’re not alone if you’ve ever asked yourself, “Should I stay in this role?” Maybe you’ve felt unappreciated despite your sacrifices. Maybe the workload feels unmanageable, and you’re constantly putting yourself last to meet everyone else’s needs. Maybe you’re wondering if the impact you’re striving to make is even noticed. These feelings are valid. Leadership often feels like a thankless role, but that doesn’t mean your efforts go unnoticed or unvalued. The truth is, the difference you make as a nurse leader isn’t measured by productivity or retention it is measured by what you individually value.   If you’re feeling undervalued or burnt out, ask yourself these questions:

• Why did I step into this role in the first place? Reconnecting with your “why” can reignite your purpose.
• Have I outgrown my role and what opportunities are available to me from within my organization?  A job may not exist but it can- sometimes you just have to ask- I would also say come with ideas for what would be mutually beneficial for the organization AND you.
• When the last time I legitimately looked to see what else is out there? Dust off your resume and look at what you have accomplished since you last updated.  That in itself can be very validating.
• Am I setting boundaries that protect my well-being? Leadership requires balance—advocating for others starts with advocating for yourself.  Check your PTO balance.  Enough said there.
• What do I need from my organization to feel supported? Don’t hesitate to have honest conversations with your peers or supervisors about what would help you thrive.

And finally, remember this: It’s okay to consider other opportunities if your current role no longer aligns with your values or goals. Leaving doesn’t mean you’ve failed—it means you’re choosing growth, whether that’s within or outside of your current organization. To all the nurse leaders out there questioning your path, know that your leadership matters. Whatever decision you make, let it be one that honors your worth and your well-being. You deserve that—and so does the profession you’ve dedicated your life to.